Most of us parents have read countless magazines and articles about parenting techniques. It’s a natural thing for parents to want to do right for their kids. However, I had to ask myself “when did we start turning to others for guidance on how to raise our child?”
It’s as though we have convinced ourselves that we are incapable of raising a decent human being. When did we start doubting ourselves and why? Or a better question to ask might be “Is it really we who are doing the doubting?”
Does the Divine Light, the Higher Consciousness, God (whatever name you prefer to use) ever give us anything that we are incapable of using and transcending in any given moment? The answer is no, that is the whole point of this Life. We are always given in each and every moment what we need to transcend our limitations. We wouldn’t be given what we need if we also weren’t given the capacity to transcend those very limitations.
The problem is that we come into this world with old hand-me-down beliefs that many don’t bother questioning. The most important belief that has gone unquestioned is that the voice that speaks to us (in our heads) in every moment is our own voice. We actually believe that we talk to ourselves.
What if I were to tell you that we don’t talk to ourselves? The truth is, the lower consciousness that we have been given the time in this life to transcend talks to ITSELF. When we unconsciously give that voice our attention, it feeds on our vital energies that were intended to be used for transfiguration. Over time, that continual wrong use of our attention creates this feeling that we are that voice.
In errantly believing that we are that voice, we listen and act on its prompting. It says things like “No matter what I do, my child doesn’t listen” or “I can’t do this. I don’t want to mess up my child”. The dialogue of commentary is endless. It is that very nature in us that has us doubting ourselves when we aren’t attentive to it.
The bottom line is that the lower consciousness always points the finger outward for seeking answers to our so-called problems, just as it points the finger of blame, anger and resentment at others for any negative state we are experiencing.
It’s all upside down. True answers have always come from within and are given to us moment to moment by a higher level of consciousness. The caveat being that we must be present to receive those answers.
If the needs of every individual child differ moment to moment and if true answers are given to us from within moment to moment, how can any cookbook protocol on how to raise your child help you transcend the limitations that you alone are given by God to transcend in the moment? The answer is, they can’t.
There is a part of us that likes to be told what to do by others. There is a part of us that likes regiment. There is a part of us that likes to follow a certain laid out structure. Those are the limited parts of us that need to be transcended.
We have to do a full “turnaround”. We have to work at being present. We have to learn to wait for the answers that we are in need of. This is no easy feat by any means, but it is the only way to turn this upside-down world right-side up.
We have to be willing to stand in the moment with a full and open honest heart and admit to God that we don’t know what to do. In that very admission, we agree to sacrifice the lower consciousness, the nature to which we have so blindly turned to for guidance since time millennia.
Through those very acts of sacrifice, we no longer replicate ourselves through our children from generation to generation. Instead, we are given proper instruction in the moment and through that sacrifice we are made new. That change positively affects not only our children, but the whole of life as well. No parenting protocol can do that. Only Love can do that.
We were not created to carry burdens unto ourselves. The Divine Light has always been there in every moment to carry that burden for us. “My yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Any burden is happily accepted by the Light when we surrender our need to be burdened by anything.
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